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Every guide I've made to give away, all in one place. Print them, fill them in on your phone or share the link with someone who needs it. No email needed. Take what helps.

I wrote each one as a certified grief educator and a mom who has lived this. They are built on grief research. The sources are listed with every guide.

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For the hardest days

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When It's All Too Much

For the days grief is too heavy to think past the next hour.

Inside
  • Ten small things to try, one at a time
  • A 10-day tracker to see what helped
  • A heavy-day plan for the fridge

Based on David Kessler

When It's All Too Much

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Hard-Day Survival Kit

For grief waves that hit all at once.

Inside
  • Breathing and grounding steps
  • Tiny care and permission slips
  • A list of your hard-day people

Based on Stroebe & Schut · Kessler · The Dougy Center

Hard-Day Survival Kit

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Where Am I Today? Check-In

For the days you can't name what you're feeling.

Inside
  • Notice your heart, body and energy
  • Pick one thing you need today
  • Use it again to see how you're changing

Based on Stroebe & Schut · Kessler

Where Am I Today? Check-In

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Signs and Moments Journal

For anyone who notices signs that feel like their person.

Inside
  • Keep the birds, songs and dreams in one place
  • Come back to them on hard days
  • Staying connected is a healthy part of grief

Based on Klass, Silverman & Nickman · Kessler

Signs and Moments Journal

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First 7 Gentle Pages

For anyone wondering if a grief workbook could help.

Inside
  • Seven real pages from my workbooks
  • From The First 30 Days + Mothers Edition
  • Try them first, at your own pace

Based on Kessler Grief Educator Certification

First 7 Gentle Pages

For friends, family, schools and helpers

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Help! What Do I Say to Them?

For friends and family afraid of saying the wrong thing.

Inside
  • 12 common phrases + what to say instead
  • Texts you can send today
  • How to make it right if you slipped

Based on David Kessler · Klass

Help! What Do I Say to Them?

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What to Say Card

For a quick reminder in your wallet or to hand out.

Inside
  • What to say + what to skip
  • How to help if someone may be suicidal
  • Fits a 5 x 7 card

Based on The Dougy Center · Kessler · #BeThe1To · 988

What to Say Card

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Supporting a Grieving Student

For teachers, coaches and school staff.

Inside
  • What grief looks like at each age
  • What to say + what to skip
  • When to get more help

Based on The Dougy Center · Coalition to Support Grieving Students

Supporting a Grieving Student

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Grief and 988 Resource Sheet

For anyone worried about themselves or someone they love.

Inside
  • Warning signs + how to help
  • Crisis lines, 24/7
  • Trusted grief resources on one page

Based on 988 Lifeline · AFSP · The Dougy Center

Grief and 988 Resource Sheet

These are a gentle companion, not professional care. If you are in crisis, call or text 988 (U.S.) or your local emergency number.

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